1 /5 Ryan Murphy: Horrible church dont go here the person in charge of youth ministry Monica talks bad about all the families all the time in the youth ministry and the church allows it. Its obvious too but no one does anything about it. It effects the whole church and turns everyone into gossips. They are very clicky and make fun of others to feel better about themselves every week. its hurt a few friendships and this hasnt been addressed in the kids ministry.
its very visible at the front desk and in the hallways all the time. I get they are burnt out but thats not a good thing to do and her and her husband should retire till they do it makes the whole church bad and full of gossip. They mock people too and know they can get away with it. Did it to me right next to me knowing people would do nothing and made a lot of unneeded friction between me and other volunteers, same with others I know. They know and lie about it too. They rule this church and pick on people and make excuses to justify constant gossip. This plosions others and makes them gossip as well. They are the center of it though usually right outside the the Kids welcome desk It causes a lot of volunteers to leave too. The church doesnt want to address it though they should, so this is so people know not to go here till this is dealt with. People should be aware, so it doesnt hurt their walk and also its really visible. I could hear them both in the kids room during awanna and right next to my bible study bad mouthing me and other volunteers, while sharing personal information and they enjoyed doing it. Stuff like that you want to stay away from especially when starting your walk because their burnout effects your walk negatively. It used to be a good place till a lot of good people left. Hopefully, it can be again some day. Thats what can happen when people trying to do good at first can burn out and start this path of gossip. It still needs to be addressed. Because till it is gossip will get worse and drive more away. Their not the only church with this problem but it doesnt make it ok or acceptable and should be worked on and fixed. One thing is if someone just being civil stay out of peoples business mend relationships and be honest and dont talk bad about people every week in the hallway or by the childrens desk. Keep peoples stuff private dont hurt friends bonds or volunteer bonds bulled volunteers bonds and with both man and women eventually they have to work together so its better to have a good bond. Dont make more out of things it makes friction between volunteers. I heard them I know they know what they did but refused to fix it, mend it and be honest about it. I I and many other people didnt deserve that. Why do I say it till they fix it people will keep leaving and no one will get why. Dont get bossy with correcting every little thing or making more out of it. It makes problems and drives good people away. When correction becomes obsessive it makes friction and turns into gossip and mocking a lot of times. Instead of correcting its best to leave it be unless you caused it than you mend it. Burned out people turned correction to gossip and hurt bonds instead of helping to build them. Happens a lot but people were afraid to say anything and it happens a lot epically in this area due to gossip and due to obsessives correction and trying to control other peoples personal stuff when you shouldnt unless you made it. Ways to fix this work on team on building and mending between people when you see this friction. Your suppose to live right but not be demon hunters or gossipers. A lot of times being a good example does more in helping people than correcting things verbally or talking about things that dont concern you personally and arent about you.
